Is it a stem or a stalk?

Stalk: Noun; the stem of a plant.
Stalk: Verb, Instransitive; to walk with a stiff, haughty, or angry gait; to move threateningly or menacingly.
Stalk: Verb, Transitive; to follow or observe (a person) persistently, especially out of obsession or derangement.
Stalking: Noun; Broadly, engaging in a course of conduct directed at a person that serves no legitimate purpose and seriously annoys that person.

In 1999, I was stalked by a former boyfriend. I broke off the relationship for a number of reasons. He barely graduated from Georgia Tech and was proud of barely graduating. He was also proud of naming his daughters after his old girlfriends, none of whom would marry him. As a scholar and a woman, I perceived his educational accomplishment as nothing to brag of and his naming his daughters after old girlfriends as a character flaw. The larger question for me was "Why is he telling me this?" Am I supposed to congratulate him for barely passing his college courses? Did he think it was 'cute' to have named his daughters for his old girl friends? He is (or was if he's not still breathing) totally unimpressive.

In 2005, I had the misfortune to inherit a stalker from a hiker-friend of mine. Being in the wrong place at the wrong time and having emails interpreted differently from intended by someone who has no real grasp of reality created the "intemperant cyber stalker." This person has obvious mental handicaps and while able to type on a computer has no understanding that the art of communication does not include intimidation and threats. This person does not have the talents needed to integrate into society and so prefers to stand out as an example of "who not to grow up to be" for children everywhere. This person is totally and completely unimpressive.

Sometimes people don't realize that the phrase "here's your sign" refers to them.

As Forrest Gump once said: Stupid is as Stupid does.

So how did I move from victim to victorious? The boyfriend received a certified letter to cease and desist. The cyber stalker has been eliminated from my inbox. The reason for this post? When does cyber stalking turn into vandalizing? Maybe someone familiar with the situation has a clue and can share it.